Reblogging for Flip The Script on National Adoption Month.
This thought came to me last night.
I guess I had read one-too-many posts on adoption as a victory, while suicide is a tragedy. It all came together like a head-on collision: When we ask women to “make an adoption plan,” what we are really saying is, “Die, and let me have your child.”
How often have you heard people chastise those who decided to end their lives as playing God? It is called a sin. The dead or would-be dead are weak, disturbed, selfish, short-sighted, and angry. Much discussion ensues on how suicide must be prevented. It doesn’t matter why the individual wanted to die, the act of suicide must be stopped.
But when a woman thinks about relinquishing her child, there is no outcry. Instead, she is encouraged to go through with it, not unlike spectators on a sidewalk, mocking the desperate individual on the ledge with, “Jump, jump!”
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Elle, it always alarmed me when I’d see discussion about mothers and who gets the baby and it’s all about them – their stories rarely mention us adoptees as anything more than a blank baby. And the pain for the adoptee is so BIG it can lead to suicide. I hope you don’t mind me making a long comment. I get so angry about this whole issue.